Trust Issues? (Part 1)

Hmmmm, trust issues.  A friend of mine says that eating the combination of Jollof rice and stew means one has trust issues, I don’t really agree😂😂😂. According to her, Jollof doesn’t need stew and so adding stew means you do not trust it to be delicious. I like my Jollof rice with a bit of stew though. You’re probably wondering if this blog post is about food, keep calm. I should actually write a blog post about food, later sha.

Soooooo, it’s been ages since my last blog post. I literally feel like a pilgrim that stumbled upon a strange but familiar land. But I’m back, at least for now.😎

Okayyy, trust issues. I pray you read this with an open mind and that the Holy Spirit guides you, Amen.

Having trust issues plainly means you lack the ability to believe in the truth of someone or something.

If you do not trust a person (let’s call this person “A”), it means whatever the person tells you will be received with doubt and you really would not be blamed if you insist on verifying every piece of information you get from such person.  If A passes you and says “good morning” with all sincerity, to be very sure its morning, you could go as far as checking the time. (Yeah, it could be that bad actually 😂). And you’ll agree with me that there’ll be a great strain in your relationship.

Okay, probably it’s not as deep as your case with “A”, there’s another person named “B” (I don’t know why I’m using letters of the alphabet, lol) who promised to get you something or help out perhaps but ended up disappointing you on different occasions. That’s painful though. “B” comes along after a while and promises to get you something else, really you wouldn’t totally believe such person based on your previous experiences. You could as well say “you do not trust the person”.

Yeah, you can relate and you’ve probably cast your mind back to different scenarios – or that time as a child when you wanted to follow an adult out of the house and then the person said “go and get your slippers “, you confidently walked out with your beautiful slippers only to find the person gone. Boom! A free display of tears😂😂😂😂😂. I know so many people can relate to this) – and perhaps your conclusion is “no man can be trusted”. Oh well, there are actually trustworthy people. I recently got to understand (with the help of the Holy Spirit) what it means to “trust no man”.

Put not your trust in princes, nor in the son of man, in whom there is no help.
Psalms 146:3 KJV

Micah 7:5a Trust ye not in a friend, put ye not confidence in a guide

To trust no man is to depend on the Lord totally. There is a problem when you have a substitute for God in your life. That point you feel everything is fully settled, life is good, everything is going smoothly and there is no place for God. My dear, there is a big problem!

Certainly there are people God has placed in your life to help you -Parents, friends, mentors, pastors, relatives etc- but the moment you depend solely on these people or you replace the role of God in your life with this people, you are derailing.

For some people, it could be material things you totally trust in -money, your clothes, shoes, accessories, gadgets, the list goes on – and then you are too comfortable to trust in God.  Nahh, really wrong.

Psalms 20:7 Some trust in chariots, and some in horses: but we will remember the name of the LORD our God.

There is no substitute for God. Total dependence in the Lord has its benefits, definitely.

Psalms 20:8 They are brought down and fallen: but we are risen, and stand upright.

Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.
In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Take a stand today, to depend on the Lord fully (no plan B). Let’s Trust God.

There’ll be a concluding part to this topic. Thank you for reading, please come back for more. Your comments are welcome.

Stay blessed!

 

Who I truly am

My name is………………………….

Story story……

So I’m about to tell a story, hopefully I wouldn’t leave any detail behind.

I just got back from celebrating my friend and sister’s 18th birthday, Feyisayo Akintelu (specially called Kintels by me😊), It was the 26th of June, 2017. I was Seventeen but I was going to turn 18 in about a month. I got to realize that I wasn’t getting younger!!! I’ve always had a lot of ideas, I’ve always wanted to positively change the World (big dreams for a small girl, I agree.), but I learnt at CITY camp, that I have the power to positively influence this world of ours. I’ll tell you about CITY camp soon.

CITY is an acronym for Catch and Inspire Them Young, CITY programs are organized by the Eagles’ Hope Foundation of Covenant University and there’s an annual camp they organise for teenagers. I was opportuned to be a participant not just once but twice. I attended the 2013 and 2014 editions. 2013 camp was really fun and I really wanted to go back the next year, but there was a criteria 😑, you had to do a City Action Project (CAP). After a lot of brainstorming,my brother, a few of our friends and I organized a funday at Ijamido Orphanage, Ota, Ogun state. We had just four thousand naira (yeah 4k pere), a PlayStation and ourselves 😄. That was 2014,I was about 14 years at the time. One valuable lesson I learnt from that project was that you do not need to have so much before you can give. We had just four thousand naira and we bought sweets, a carton of biscuit and a pack of drinks but trust me, we had loads of fun! I made a few friends that day, teenagers just like myself and we’re still in touch. Everyone remembers that particular day. To you reading this : Give what you have, no effort is a waste.

At the 2014 camp, I got a lot of ginger! Lol, I was really really inspired and motivated. Up till now, I remember a looot of things we were taught at camp. Practical stuff, we had competitions like Speak for Change, Case Challenge, we were called “leaders”, yes leaders! I left CITY camp 2014 with a lot of ideas, a list of things to be done BUT the shy part of me kinda made me just sit back, keep writing my ideas and not carrying them out. Positively impacting my papers and not my world😂😂😂, really sad.

Hold on, don’t shake your head at me. Some of you reading this right now probably have a lot of things to do and all you do is talk about it and do NOTHING! Move! Just do it now! Act!

Back to the story😁. 2017 was a great year for me. I’ll say I found purpose, at least a part of it. I rededicated my life to Christ , I joined a christian drama group in my school, I couldn’t stop talking about Jesus. I went from that girl who scoffs at people who post stuff about God to that girl who posts nonstop about God. Lol, my friends who view my whatsapp stories should understand what I’m talking about. For real, I couldn’t stop talking about God. All I wanted was for everyone to experience this same Jesus I had experienced, the one and only 😍. So the thought came, “why don’t you make use of the social media to reach out to your mates?”, after all I was already using Whatsapp as a medium. The name dropped in my heart (yeah, the Holy Spirit inspires), NaijaChristianTeen. I felt someone would have used it,story story and all.

Basically, I was making excuses. I searched on google, nothing came up Then I created accounts on Instagram and Twitter. Since that day I haven’t gone back to the the Twitter account probably because I don’t really use the app and majorly because of my laziness😂😂😂. Then I got to create a blog here on WordPress about a day later.

My anonymous condition well, most of my friends do not even know I own a blog. Just a few people. Kintels’ reaction when she found out was epic🤣🤣,Tobi Babalola made the logo and designs, thank you Tobi. My family members have just been awesome, my special minister of encouragement, Sese, you’re one in a million.

Last night at Victoria Orenze’s concert – Jesus Christ the way, the truth and the life – I got to realize that you cannot hide light! A city set on a hill cannot be hidden. If God says it’s time to come out, who am I to stay scared or probably shy?🤷 Nahhh, I do not have the spirit of fear but Love, power and a sound mind! The time is now and there’s always grace and strength from the Father above. I’ll be 20 in a few months time, I’ll no longer be a teenager but then, that won’t end God’s call to teens for me. I’m spending the weekend currently at Christ the Light of Hope Orphanage, Akute and I’m having a swell time. Children are indeed the heritage of the Lord! 😊

Victorious Osilama and Nathaniel Ace, you’re no longer strangers, but really a part of my life. Thank you for the encouragements, for the features. Victorious, you asked why I wanted to remain anonymous in the first mail you sent to me. Lol I’m no longer anonymous 😎

Weird how I’m about to end this post without saying who I am. Lmao, the Lord will not have it.

My name is Oluwakorede Odesanya. I’m still a naijachristianteen, at least for the next few months. I’m a Bells University student. I’m a daughter of Zion, an advocate of the Light. Called to spread the good news of Christ. I’m unashamed of the Gospel.

Oh well, that’s it! Thanks for reading up to the point. Remember to do what you have to do, do not waste time.

God bless you

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PREEMINENCE

We want Him to have superiority in our lives which covers basically all that concerns us.

We are Christians, believers and Heaven’s Specification in both character and deeds, when we pray or when most Christians pray, we say “God take preeminence”.

That signifies that we want him to be superior, we want him to have superiority in our lives which covers basically all that concerns us.

Now how do we tell God that or pray that and then we still want to be supreme in our own lives. That’s not possible. It’s either you are taking preeminence which includes your flesh and selfish desires or God is taking preeminence. When God takes preeminence, he does it with people who are ready and willing to give the rein of their lives to him totally.

We need to learn that God wouldn’t force himself on anyone or fight for relevance in your life, so it’s one thing to say ” God take preeminence” and another thing to act it by letting go and focusing on him, making him most highly important to you and meaning it genuinely.

Colossians 1: 18. And he is the head of the body, the church: who is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead; that in all things he might have the preeminence.

John 3: 30. He must increase, but I must decrease.

We, as Christians, need to reflect and ask ourselves a very important question; who is taking preeminence, You or God?

OBEDIENCE.

We’ve heard and nodded to so many sermons on ‘obedience’. But irrespective of the nodding and shouts (ride on Pastor!!) How many of us actually implement it. When it comes to attesting that something is right, we all can raise our hands but when it comes to implementation, there’s hardly any hands raised in the implementation of obedience.

God doesn’t see your nod, he sees your heart(commitment) in carrying out his will.

John 14:15,21: if ye love me, keep my commandments. 21. He that hath my commandments, and keepeth them, he it is that loveth me: and he that loveth me shall be loved of my Father, and I will love him, and will manifest myself to him. God can’t be fooled, we need to stop worshiping him with our mouths when our determination to obey is nowhere to be seen. God isn’t fooled by your shouts of acknowledgement on his word in public. He is concerned about the actions carried out in effect to his word.

James 2:10: For whosoever shall keep the whole law, and yet offend in one point, he is guilty of all. This shows that there no ‘his sin is greater than mine’ or ‘at least I didn’t do that one na, all I did was lie’. Sin is sin, either lie, adultery etc. When we truly love God and really want a deepseated relationship with God, we would be ready to go the extra mile in being broken and contrite to him, definitely not in our own strength, but by God’s grace and empowerment.

1 John 3:22: And whatsoever we ask, we receive of him, because we keep his commandments, and do those things that are pleasing in his sight.

When you nod and shout and give all manner of signs that you are in sync with the message, but then go home and do what is contrary to his will and then you kneel to pray. You are praying in vain. His word has clearly stated that ‘because we KEEP his commandments’ and ‘do those things that are PLEASING in his sight,’ then we would receive.

Disobedience is definitely not PLEASING in God’s sight.

Choose to obey today. Remember: to obey is better than to sacrifice.

Stay blessed.

Motives – Victorious Osilama

A person might be so ‘amazing’ and ‘good’ but the motive might be nasty, sooooo how do
we judge a person right? Urmmmm that’s not your job honey, it’s your business to be
right with God (your Papa), he knows it all and can save you from people with wrong
motives. Buttttt you, my sweetheart, are not exempted from it also, we need to be careful
with our thoughts and motives, haven’t you realised how it feels like you are in constant
battle with your flesh? Like you wanna just think good thoughts but your mind just keeps
diverting and going to the wrong places or after doing that job and you are being
congratulated by a tons of people and your head begins to swell and you start feeling
like ‘Bruce Almighty’.
When we are called to do assignments or give a speech or write that article for that
amazing blog, what’s your motive behind saying YES( is it; a) finally, I get to be known. b)
finally, i can make more money to show those people that I can buy that car. c) finally,
God can be seen through me etc….we all have a lot of motives behind what we do and
it’s cool to want to be known and buy that car or go for that wedding in ‘style’ to show
some specific people ‘pepper’ (the last one is wrong oh).
Our motives should be founded in God, we’ve all been blessed by God in diverse gifts,
both spiritual and physical gifts and when we get the opportunity to implement these
gifts(giving, writing, teaching, interpretation of tongues, etc), it’s our utmost responsibility
that our motives for doing what we do shouldn’t be for self gratification but to show forth
his power and splendid exhibition in our lives (Matt 5:16-Let your light so sh­ine before
men, that they may see your good works, and glo­rify your Fa­ther which is in heav­en.) So
when our motives aren’t being checked, there’s no way your ‘good works’ glorifies God.
God is the reason that you can be of help to someone, that you can easily forgive, ace
that degree, get that opportunity, that you can sponsor a child’s education, you don’t
make the difference, IT’S GOD IN YOU THAT MAKES THE DIFFERENCE.
Philp 2:13-For it is God which wor­keth in you both to will and to do of his good pleasure. I
won’t pretend sometimes that our motives can’t sway, mine does. But what I do is that I
constantly say in my mind that ‘you’re the reason, God, that this is possible’. I keep
repeating it and while I sing, write, speak in front of people etc, that inner confession
being made sets my motives right, it makes me know who I’m living for and why this gift
is even possible and being able to be actualised. So when you get applauded, do you
thank God for the opportunity to be used by him or you smile and say ‘guyyy I get talent
ooo, omo you gats to see how I dey rehearse day and night’, it might not come like that
oh but we know what I’m talking about. So next time before writing, helping a person,
doing what you do, whatever it is that you do, just answer a quick question in your heart
“what’s my reason for doing this”.
Is it to let people see that God has made a difference in your life? or to receive
admiration and self gratification.
Let our motives be founded in Christ

This article was written by Victorious Osilama.

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Reminders for the low days…

At some point, everything might not be okay. Darling, that’s okay. Life is not so rosy, yeah?

But what matters most is remembering that God loves you. He knows your name and everything about you. He knows about your pain, He’s ever ready to help you. Just call on Him.

You are stronger than you think. The Lord is your strength. Hold on, you matter to so many people. You just might not realize.

Remember, the Lord is your shepherd. You shall not want!

Unnecessary load😑

I started thinking, am I depressed? But then, I remember telling myself “nahhh, that’s not possible. Nigerians don’t get depressed”.

For a certain period, I had a lot of things going on in my life. I really don’t know the best way to describe everything but I will attempt to. (That period will be referred to as “The point” all through this article).

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There’s a point where it feels like nothing is happening, like in all aspects. And then there’s this low feeling, really really low feeling that accompanies the point”.

During The point, I felt so down and bad and incomplete and sad and a whole lot of bad bad emotions. Crazy right?

The whole of The point, I was basically struggling, trying to smile on the outside while tearing up on the inside. And then when I got opportunities of having my room to myself, actually tearing up and getting my pillow soaked with tears of frustration. It was terrible!

Trying to balance up various school activities with studying and getting good grades and moving on with my life (Actually, it was a dead end for me). But then, still struggling to maintain my sanity.

Really, it wasn’t a pleasant experience. The worst part was I didn’t know how to express my feelings.

I started thinking, am I depressed? But then, I remember telling myself “nahhh, that’s not possible. Nigerians don’t get depressed”. Forgive me but my society does not recognize depression in any form. Depression 😏- That happens only in books and all. (My opinion prior to this experience). I took a few online quizzes to check my mental sanity and then I got some funny replies. One particular result said I was “suffering from mild to moderate depression”. Okayyy, so it’s not that bad! I’m just a bit depressed 😂😂😂

All of a sudden, I lost interest in some activities, in people and even my best friend (You know who that is right?)

Well, if you do not know – GOD. My father.

You’re probably wondering, where is she going with all this story. Just keep reading please.

It was like I lost a connection, I found it really difficult to pray, worship, talk to Him and do the regular things I used to do.

Then, each day was kinda worse than the previous day. I just wasn’t feeling so good, I started having worries about a lot of things and very weird thoughts started coming in. Thoughts of failing at school, never getting married (😂😂😂 Yes, this happened! I can laugh about this now but mehn, it wasn’t funny.), and then a thought of suicide came in!!! That was the last straw for me! I told my self – (inserts name here), this is really not possible. Wake up and find help for yourself.

So I decided to go back to the One I had intentionally ignored and put in the background. I really felt bad, here was someone who offered to help, but my whole attitude was “You’re not needed, I’m fine all by myself. *flips hair and walks out like a diva😎*

I literally ran back to Him to pray and ask for forgiveness. I remember crying and expressing my guilt but one beautiful thing happened, I was forgiven! Just like that right, yeah!

Then I poured out all what I was going through. I expressed how I felt exactly my fears, my worries and doubts, every single thing. Withholding nothing! And I started getting reminders – How loved I was and how I had no cause to fear- It was a beautiful night! Losing my fears and cares in worship, laying everything down. No worries, no stress, no pain, 100% gain!

Depression, stress, anxiety and the likes are unnecessary problems that we face.

Are you depressed? Stressed? Worried? Broke? Failing at school? Waiting for admission? (I’ll share my personal story one day, Jamb o Jamb🤦) Did you recently lose a loved one🙁? Are you hungry🤧😋? Do you have any other problem, I have not listed?

Just hold on, do not carry unnecessary load! Please don’t. If you can, talk to a trusted person about your problems, could be a friend, a parent, your elder siblings (if you have any), or even your pastor or teenager’s coordinator in church. You could send me an email also, or send a dm on instagram. I’ll be ready to talk.

But first, there’s a very very important thing you have to do. Talk to Jesus!!! Yes, it’s possible. He’s available all the time. 24/7. Just tell it to Him. You’re loved and precious in His sight. Matthew 11:28 says Come unto me, all ye that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. You have the opportunity to rest, but you need to go to Him first, note the first condition – Come. In case you’re wondering why, we were told in First Peter chapter five, verse seventeen to Cast all our cares upon God because He cares for us. God cares about you!!!!

The amazing part remains the fact that He is ever ready. God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble – Psalms 46:1

You’re loved! Never forget this. Drop the load you are carrying this instant. You don’t need it!

Thank you for reading this. God bless you. This blog post is rather different from majority of the others, I felt it’ll be nice to share a true experience.

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